There are two types of people when we talk about fears: those who deny or ignore them, and those who fight them back.
Getting through your fears is a skill anyone can learn, the fact your fears are a part of who you are doesn’t mean you have to deal with them forever. So, if feel like your nerves get the best of you a bit too much, and stop you from trying new things we have, we got something for you.
There are a lot of different ways to control your fears, and one we know to be really effective is writing fear lists: is a combination of putting your thoughts on paper and seeing them as mere words (rather than abstract ideas) that empowers you to take action. Let us guide you through some simple steps on how to make your first fear list, and what to do afterwards:
First of all, understand your weaknesses: you need to accept that these fears exist and that they are yours. It is important that you understand that you cannot conquer your fears all at the same time, you need to go one by one.
You need to develop a plan and decide when and where you are going to start checking points of your list. We recommend you to write your fears in order from the smallest to the biggest, but any order can do as long as you sort them after.
For example, an extremely common fear is leaving your comfort zone, especially if you are the shy type that gets anxious over big parties and having to talk with strangers (or god forbid, convince or sell something to them).
While in the bigger picture this is a personality trait that can take months (if not years) to deal with, it is a worthwhile pursuit, and your list can start with smaller things like talking to a stranger in your way to work.
Any small step you achieve (and keep record of!) will push you to the next one, and soon they form a stair and you don’t even know how you managed to accomplish so much.
If you really want to challenge yourself, every time you cross out 10 fears, add 10 more, and with enough time, you’ll become one of those people who others really look up to.
Now, to actually confront your fears, we’ll give you some useful tips on how to go around common situations:
- In case of mini-nervous-breakdown: breathe, deeply and multiple times, preferably while counting inside your head. Breathing is a popular meditation technique, but it doesn’t mean it’s not great for everyday situations, as it helps you calm down an clear your thoughts.
- Yoga is actually really good: when you do yoga, you release energy and relax your muscles, all while releasing endorphins that make your body feels great. If you feel good, I’ts very likely you’re better prepared to deal with stressful situations. Any exercise works actually, but your jogging chances 5 minutes before a speech are pretty slim.
- Ask questions, to yourself, to god, to the wind, to whoever you think will have the correct answer and listen to your feelings. This isn’t about getting answers, but about comparing anything you get (or don’t) with what you already think, it’s a good mental exercise to knowing yourself better.
- In case you are religious, pray. If it works for millionaires, artists, entrepreneurs and even reformed criminals, it is worth some minutes of your time every day.
Remember to take care of yourself by eating healthy and exercising – feeling good does wonders to your confidence! We hope you enjoy the rest of your day.Tags: fear lists healthy healthy lifestyle